My Love, Will You Die For Me Today?

It seems like the grandest gesture one can make – to die for another. Jesus even says that there is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend (John 15:13).

It’s the most romantic thing a person could possibly say, “I love you so much, I would die for you.”

Most men have this innate drive to protect what is theirs. Husbands would easily give their lives for their wives if it was a matter of protecting them. Our small group has been going through a video series for the last couple months, and that has been mentioned several times.

“A man would die for his wife.”

While it does seem like a grand gesture, I don’t just want my husband to be willing to sacrifice his body to protect me. Honestly, I might be a little upset because he would be leaving me to live without him, so I struggled with this idea.

Then the Lord gave me an incredible revelation while I was in the shower.

I was wrestling with this idea that a man would hypothetically die for his wife, when there are so many things that the same man could do right now that might be grander than death.

Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.”

The Lord began showing me that this idea of a husband dying for his wife was much less hypothetical than I had originally thought. Because I thought, “Of course you can say you will give up your life for someone when that action seems so distant. It’s easy to agree to something that seems like the opportunity will never come, and most of us don’t find ourselves in situations that would require our husbands to die to protect us.”

But a husband can die for his wife.

Every day.

He can die to himself. He can let his flesh die and live by the Holy Spirit. He can perform this valiant, noble, and romantic act every day to protect his wife from the things that he might do that would hurt her if he chose instead to gratify the desires of his flesh, whether that’s gambling away the life savings, lusting after another woman, lying, stealing, or being abusive.

And so this phrase was placed heavy on my heart, so I would remember to share it with my husband:

My Love, will you die for me today?

My Love, will you die for me today?

This isn’t meant to be one-sided. Husbands and wives alike are called to die to themselves when we pick up our crosses and follow Jesus. In the same way that husbands can die to protect their wives, wives can do the same. The difference is that husbands are specifically called to do this.

As I sat down to write this, God spoke to my heart again and said, “Do you know that I say that to you? My Love, will you die for me today?”

My first thought was, “Ouch. It hurts to do that.” But I was so thankful for the reminder. Sometimes I focus so much on improving my marriage that I forget about what God wants from me. He wants all of me. My whole heart. The whole mess, so that He can do a good work in and through me. He is so good.




One thought on “My Love, Will You Die For Me Today?

  1. You are between husbands and wives cannot be one sided. Each person must become selfless and put the needs of their spouse above their own.
    In a marriage both husband and wife are portraying the union bergen between Jesus Christ and His Church.


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